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Before Totya Platform became a response for others, there was a personal journey shaped by loss, abuse, silence, and healing.
I lost my mother when I was eight. On the day we buried her, someone we trusted—a close family friend—took advantage of that moment and assaulted me. He said he was “preparing me for life.”
I carried that alone for 17 years. I didn’t tell anyone, not even my sister, even though we were close. I was afraid I wouldn’t be believed—and that she might take his side.
For a long time, I didn’t fully understand what had happened, but I felt the weight of it.
It affected how I saw myself. I struggled with confidence, questioned my worth, and carried this quiet belief that I wasn’t enough. School became harder. I felt stuck, like I wasn’t going anywhere.
Things began to shift when I finally opened up to a friend.
Through that, I found support—someone who helped me slowly rebuild my sense of self. And somewhere along that journey, I realised I wasn’t the only one carrying something like this. There were other girls going through the same thing, in silence.
That’s where Totya began. The idea of creating a safe, discreet way for survivors to reach out and get help without having to expose themselves.
“Totya” means “Fear Not.”
Today, as a social worker and child safeguarding specialist, I carry that experience with me in the way I support others who’ve gone through sexual violence.
Through Totya Platform, we try to make sure no one has to face it or figure it out on their own.
The story behind Totya is deeply personal. The work it shaped is now shared through prevention of sexual violence, healing, and justice for survivors.
